We’ve all heard of #RelationshipGoals. Your boyfriend bought you flowers and your girlfriend hangs out with you while you play Fortnite, #RelationshipGoals. But should they really be considered goals? Does he always make sure to tell you to drive safe and wear a seatbelt? Does she go out of her way to call your mom to wish her a happy birthday? Strong relationships that can withstand the test of time have something in common: they all plan on accomplishing all 21 cute relationship goals below.
Learn how to make it to your “I do’s” with these 21 cute relationship goals to make it last.
1. We, not I
You guys know that 1+1=2 and not 1. “I think the hardest thing to get used to when I first started dating my boyfriend was that it wasn’t just me anymore. There was now this whole other human in my space in a way I had never been used to. After three strong years together he and I have a motto of sorts now: We are always in this together,” student at Santa Fe Mika Irikawa said. You and your partner can comfortably make decisions together, loyally watch a series together and try to work out your arguments together. Always remember that you two are working together against the problem, not the other way around.
2. Comfortable Silences
Silence can seem scary, but with the right person you won’t need to feel the space around you with useless chatter. “My favorite dates with my boyfriend usually end up with us just being next to each other without saying a word. I love that now we can simply enjoy each other’s company without feeling that I have to keep the conversation going in order to keep his interest,” UF senior Gabriela Diaz said. In this case, silence seems golden.
What they say is true—laughter really is the best medicine, especially in relationships. Never lose that ability you have with your partner to just laugh. Laugh at each other. Laugh with each other. Laugh because of the bad jokes and even worse puns. Being able to have fun together and fill your days with the sometimes obnoxious sounds of happiness is one of the best ways to keep any relationship strong.
4. They’re Your Safe Haven
When you think of them, the feeling of love and safety embraces you. They represent everything that is home. Comfort. Warmth. Love. They represent the moment of relief you feel when you can finally hide from the world. You go to them to feel secure and steady. They ground you in the best way possible and somehow became your happy place.
5. Money Talks
You and your lover can keep it real when it comes to money. “I hate to sound superficial, but money can be important in a relationship—any really. It’s important to have honest conversations about where you both stand financially and come to an understanding of things that you can and cannot do,” UF junior Judy Jo Shippen said. Sharing financial responsibility in a relationship now shows that you guys can handle it when times get touch and go and money starts getting tight. You both understand the importance of it, but you do not let it take over your lives. Getting mad if your partner can’t buy you something or take you out on an expensive date does not make for a good relationship. It makes for a superficial one and definitely not one worthy of a relationship goal.
6. Learn How To Fight
Fighting in a relationship comes naturally. The key to keeping it healthy just involves fighting the right way. You don’t resort to saying the nastiest things you can think of out of spite. You guys can rationally think beyond the argument to understand that some things are best left unsaid. You take a walk if you need to get away to clear your mind and cool off, but always come back to fix things together. You both know when to apologize has come and have no issues when it comes to “I’m sorry.
7. Kill ‘em With Kindness
As cheesy as it sounds, you adore making the other happy. You shoot them with your love and finish them off with kindness. Going out of your way to make babe smile or feel special means everything to you both. It doesn’t sit right with you when you hurt the other, intentional or not. You have made it y’alls goal to not cause the other pain and the strength of your relationship demonstrates that.
8. Weirdos Together
We all know how weird our inner selves actually are—we hide them for a reason. But when you can not only reveal that weirdness but also reach new heights of weirdness together, consider that next level. Showing your naturals selves to each other and just vibing off your unique energy means so much more than normal.
9. Boring Is Ok
As boring as boring sounds, it doesn’t have to have a negative connotation. The idea of waking up to the same boring-ass face day after day makes you excited and the need to constantly spice of the relationship doesn’t speak to you. You don’t have to keep changing things up to make things more exciting, things are perfect as they stand. Some days are the same but when you think about spending the next 30 years with the same old person, things suddenly don’t seem so dull.
10. Take The Good With The Bad
Let’s be real: we all have our days. You know, those days where even the sun pisses you off. No one is happy and in a great mood 24/7. It happens to the best of us. It happens to your significant other too. When that time comes, and it has already several times, you just learn how to roll with it. You give them space if they want it and cuddle up to them when they need it. And you know when to just sit back and let the b***h fest commence.
11. Respect Thy Partner
R-E-S-P-E-C-T. It comes in many forms and you utilize it at every turn. Be it emotions, fears, thoughts or the heart you handle each other with care and love. You would never disregard their problems or feelings because you know that they matter to your other half. Invalidating each other about anything should never become a problem for you. You support the goals, ideas and decisions they made and don’t interfere even if you don’t particularly agree. You respect the s**t out of each other every single day—it makes your relationship stronger.
12. Feel The Love
You can physically, emotionally and spiritually feel the love you have for one another. You see it and so can friends and family. The honeymoon stage has long passed and you still have hearts in your eyes every time you see each other. You see the other in a positive light and make an effort not to dwell on some on the more negative aspects (like how annoying they get when they don’t have enough sleep). You just love each other so much and don’t plan on stopping anytime soon.
13. Trust And Security
You trust can each other without doubt or second-thought. You feel an unbending sense of security in your relationship that cheating and lying is such a non–issue. The thought of them even trying to do anything shady makes you laugh. Not only have you realized that your significant other would never do anything to break the trust you’ve built, but they also know you are not the one.
14. Change And Grow Together
You won’t stay the same people you were when you first started dating. Relationships are about changing and growing together. You become stronger as you both overcome obstacles and help each other through the rough patches, but some of it feels like growing pains. Change and growth can hurt and at other times they seem uncomfortable. If you can’t grow as a couple, then your relationship can’t last. You both are in this for the long haul and want to come out as a better version of yourselves together.
You understand one another. As simple as that. You know what makes the other happy, sad, angry, laugh and hella annoyed—you get them. There doesn’t have to be any guess work with you two and it shows. You take one look at their face and see the hard day they had and put on The Office because you want to see the smiles and laughs their favorite show brings them. You know what to do because you know them, they’re your best friend.
16. Compromise Not Sacrifice
With understanding comes compromise. In understanding one another, you learned that your relationship is made up of two individuals who won’t always agree on the same thing. Your S.O. won’t always think things through the same way as you do. Learning how to compromise means the two of you want to come together to find mutual ground on a problem. You work with each other to figure it all out and don’t consider adjusting your behavior or thinking to benefit the relationship as a sacrifice.
17. You Can Breathe Without The Other
Every single free moment you or your partner have doesn’t need to be spent with the other. You know that you can live without the other, you just don’t want to. You both have hobbies, family and friends that should take up some of your focus. Ditching every other person and aspect of your life to be with your boyfriend or girlfriend makes you far too dependent on a single person. Spending time apart won’t ruin your relationship, if anything you learn to love them more as you look forward to seeing them again.
18. You’re Family
When the family starts treating you like one of their own, you know you made it. Feeling the love of your partner seems great and all, but having the family like and accept you makes everything better. Their mom adores you and you get along with the dad better than your partner does, and you make sure they know it. You never have to wonder if you should come to something because you know they consider you part of the family. Plus, becoming the favorite and having them on your side during an argument sure doesn’t hurt.
19. No Need To Dress To Impress
Bad hair, acne, drool and bad breath don’t deter the love you have for your boo. Showing up bare-faced and in sweats doesn’t scare you like it used to. You guys have evolved to a place of genuine comfortability with one another and it feels amazing. You don’t feel the need to constantly look your best to keep your partner into you because you know without doubt that they still adore you and view you as a snack on your best and worst looking days. Love does that to a person.
20. You Raise Me Up
Together you lift each other to new heights. No dream or goal is too big or small for babe when they have you supporting them. You’ve never been a cheerleader before, but you made sure to become the best damn one for your partner. You support one another and do whatever you can to make their dreams a reality. Together you can do the impossible.
21. Making It To Forever
Together forever is a concept you and your significant other can get behind. You guys know you want a future together and you actively work towards accomplishing this goal. You imagine your life 50 years down the line with the same person and can’t wait to live out the rest of your lives with your best friend. Together you both make plans and talk about everything the future holds for your relationship.