“I think if your Facebook says “Single” and/or “Looking for: dating or a relationship,” you’re using Facebook for online dating. Perhaps not actively pursuing anyone, but you are putting yourself out there with who you are and what you are looking for,” Holden says. So one may already be online dating and not even realize it.
5 Tips for Dating Online
1. Ask questions. The best way to initiate a conversation is to act like you’re already in one. If someone’s profile says they love the author David Sedaris, send a note about your favorite David Sedaris book. Much better than a “hi, how are you?”
2. Vary your photos. Have one of you dressed up, one more casual and at least one of you doing something fun. A picture is worth a thousand words, after all.
3. Look your date up online through a Google search before you meet. The more information you have going into the date, the better prepared you are to meet in person.
4. Make sure your username isn’t otherwise associated with your life (ie. your name, e-mail address, Facebook).
5. Don’t have your first meeting late at night…that will only lead to the bedroom.
2. Plentyoffish.com It is a fact—there are plenty of fish in the sea—and this site has the statistics to prove it. If you are hoping to find your soulmate, then dive in and swim around. The best part? Besides the free access to all its features, check out the forums where you can dish about your dating experiences (horror stories included!). With the right chemistry, you are bound to have a tug on your line.
3. Zoosk.com Just say it out loud, “Zoosk.” Not only a fun word to say, Zoosk.com is fun to spend time on. It’s one of the only social dating sites that connects people through multiple networks—meaning a Facebooker could score a date with someone on MySpace. Zoosk’s lighthearted cloudy blue-sky background helps remind you not to take online dating too seriously.
4. Perfectmatch.com If it takes two to tango, then Perfectmatch.com will help you find your eternal dance partner. Fill out your free Duet Compatibility Profile and you will be on your way to your first dance at the fraternity formal. Its dating tips and advanced matching capabilities will help you find your next long-term relationship.
5. Match.com According to the website, “1 in 5 relationships start online and more of them start at Match.com.” To find out if this is true, enter your zip code, register for free, and then you can look around. Match.com approaches dating like shopping for a pair of jeans: narrow down the selection—with tools like Match Words—and you’ll find the perfect fit.