Alright ladies let’s face it, we’re adults. That old game of teasing, pleasing and leaving is not acceptable anymore. That is, unless you want your dating life to start looking old, annoying and boring. And look, we know that you’re an independent woman who don’t need no man, but we also know that having a nice guy around to fix stuff and hold your hard sounds pretty sweet. You’d think by now we’d all know how to act to get a first date to become a second, but apparently the concept of dating still mystifies most of us. So here’s how to get it right:
DO: Give the guy a chance.
If a boy has good hygiene, manners, can make you laugh, and hides his ego long enough to approach you and ask you out, ACCEPT. That is what we call a keeper. Let the boy take you to lunch or dinner, maybe even somewhere nice on a warm night, it doesn’t hurt to get to know somebody for who they are, not for just looks. I know it’s hard with a stereotypical society, especially in college, but it will benefit in the long run when you are happy with someone who treats you right. However if his name is something like, “G-Money” and whistles at you to ask you out, chances are it’s not a good choice, no matter how “hot” he may be.
Katie Malachowsky, 21, says “a first date is always nerve wrecking, you never know what you’re going to get, but it gives you a chance to get to know each other to see what’s next.”
DON’T: Dress like a whore.
This is not the club, and if a man is taking you to a club on the first date then every girl should be walking away from that as fast as she can in those stilettos. Opt for jeans and a pretty top, maybe even some of those dressy leggings that we all love so much. Remember, modest is hottest, and showing all your goodies too soon might get you a one night stand instead of a cuddle buddy boyfriend. It’s all about layering and wearing what fits the body in the right way. No one is the same exact shape, so embrace those curves with figure flattering looks.
Traci Jones, 22, said “I usually get nervous and have butterflies, I hope it goes well and I don’t get weird. I spend an hour getting ready trying to decide what top to wear with my jeans.”
DO: Doll yourself up a bit.
It’s fun to dress up, and it makes a great first impression when you’re going out with someone new. Just remember, “a little dab will do ya,” as my grandma once said. A man will appreciate a natural look that still shows off inner beauty. It’ll remind him why he asked you out in the first place. You don’t need to hide who you are, but putting on something other than your finals week sweatpants is sure to wow him.
DON’T: Go over the top.
As much as we love getting pretty for a date, sometimes it doesn’t always work out the way we want it to. Kiersten Wheat, 20, said, “I decided to dye my hair before a date and ended up with orange hair. Needless to say he never called me back.” Thankfully her hair is back to normal and she doesn’t try to change who she is for anyone. On a side note, any man who doesn’t like you with orange hair probably isn’t the one.
DO: Offer to pay.
Should a girl pay for her meal on a first date?
This has long been a controversial battle on both sides, but according to Yasmine Zein, 22, “the gentleman should pay on the first date, he doesn’t need to pay every time, but it’s very essential on the first date.” But Brooke Loller, 21, says “My teacher always said we should split the bill.”
Despite which side of the coin you personally fall on you should still offer. Most gentlemen won’t let you pay, but remember, it’s the thought that counts. A gesture is worth a million words.
So remember ladies, manners count, less is more, leave the stilettos at home, and you never know why might happen.