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Lovers and Friends

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Tori Lewis   October 29, 2011

Friends are awesome. Love interests are awesome. But what happens when the two collide?

It isn’t rare for platonic friendships to suddenly get a little… electric. In a study by Linda A. Sapadin in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 62 percent of those surveyed felt sexual tension in their cross-sex friendships. A quick look to our generation’s favorite research tool (TV), shows the many possibilities once a platonic relationship is complicated by feelings:

Platonic Gone Bad

The current season of The Real World features a situation between Frank and Alexandra in which Frank makes it very clear that he wants more and Alexandra makes it very clear that she doesn’t… She has a boyfriend! This results in a complete and utter drunken breakdown from Frank (the first of many). 

Granted, this scenario can suck, but getting your feelings out there and knowing you’ve been heard might be worth it. “I think communication is the best tool,” said Logan McConnell, a sophomore at the University of Cincinnati, of how to handle new emotions in a previously platonic friendship. He added, “but know that once feelings are exposed it could ruin the friendship.”

 


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Platonic Gone Good

Best-case scenario from a sticky friendship situation is that both parties are interested and everyone lives happily ever after.

Gilmore Girls’ Luke and Lorelei, Friends’ Monica and Chandler and How I Met Your Mother’s Barney and Robin are all classic examples of this phenomenon and it’s truly like living the dream.  

 

 

If this is you, stop reading this article and go continue making the rest of us jealous with your fabulous life.

Platonic Gone Platonic

This just might be the most unsatisfying of the three.   

Alex Karev and Meredith Grey (Grey’s Anatomy) have had their troubles, including the recent plot line in which he almost destroyed her entire career. But despite all that, and despite the advances that Alex made towards Meredith way back in Season 1 that created some truly electric sexual tension, they remain platonic friends.

 

 

These situations are tough to manage and they don’t always go so smoothly. Still,platonic friendships can definitely work, but it's important to set boundaries early, be clear about your intentions and be honest with yourself and the other person. Being friends with members of the opposite sex can open your eyes to new perspectives and experiences.

“It's still a bit tricky,” said Kara Plotkin*, a sophomore at Yale University, of trying to stay friends with a guy who expressed interest in her. “We have kind of a flirty relationship, so sometimes I feel like I'm leading him on. But since I've told him where I stand, I don't feel too guilty.”

“The person in love has to decide if the pain from being around the other person is less than the joy from being around the person,” noted McConnell. “It’s a bittersweet friendship.”

 

*Names have been changed

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