Across the classroom, slamming her fist against down in frustration as she spits words of wisdom to her group mates, sits the beauty that is your next romantic endeavor. Her flowy hair and perfect face are just assets to what really is turning you on ─ her mind. You finally understand what that Cosmo in the dentist office was saying. This girl and her passion for women’s rights and sassy-but-strangely-hot attitude is exactly the kind of girl you want. Problem is, you know nothing about wooing alpha females, and she is fully capable of biting your head off if you slip one stupid statement about boobs. Take these pointers from CM on how to sweep this girl off her feet, and maybe she’ll end up giving you her number.
Respect Women…No Seriously, Respect Them
Guys will shout from rooftops that they respect women—ya know, since they have moms and all. But somehow, in this day-in-age, it’s becoming easier and easier to treat your female counterparts like accessories as opposed to real, live human beings. If you want that alpha female to notice you, then actually work on noticing her. Women are more than pretty faces and soft cuddle buddies (Although we are beautiful and great at snuggling). We have opinions, fluctuating moods and real life goals. Crack open some classic texts like bell hook’s “Feminism Is for Everybody” and take notes. Once you are on board with Aretha, it’s time to finally approach your alpha girl.
Don’t Be “Just Another Guy”
When you finally approach her, make sure what you say has substance. The “hey baby, did you fall from heaven?” pick up line shouldn’t be used on beta females, let alone your alpha woman. Spit some honest game about why you’re genuinely interested in her and maybe, just maybe, you’ll get some of her time one on one.
Forget About “Proving” Your Masculinity
Your alpha female eats gender stereotypes for breakfast. So don’t come to your date with the notion that she has to do this and you have to do that. I understand, it’s pretty tricky to go on a date with an alpha female. Will she want me to open the door for her? What about pay for dinner? Is that guy looking at her ass…should I tell him off? Your best bet is to be open with her about your thoughts. If you’re wrestling back and forth on whether or not to put that guy in a chokehold, ask your alpha female how she feels. You never know—she could surprise you and actually want the gentleman to pay. She also might snatch your credit card and snap it in half. Moral of the story? Communicate.
Don’t Play Games…Whether You Want an Alpha Female or Not
For the love of all that is holy, don’t play text tag or wait three days to call your alpha female back. She will cut you off and wash her hands clean of you. We get it, you want to show her that you’re Rico Suave and aren’t fawning after her like a lovesick puppy. But, pushing the boundaries just to play games isn’t going to win her heart. If you want to text her back right away–do it. Your feelings matter just as much as hers, and if she rejects you, at least you know you didn’t go down without a fight.
Never Apologize about How You Feel or Who You Are
Something alpha women find so incredibly sexy is the ability for a guy to be completely comfortable in his own skin. Whether it be his style or his off-the-wall opinions, he should be confident in everything he says and does because that’s the kind of man she needs. An alpha female has a strength about her that takes a long time for a lot of women to find. In order for you to actually enjoy a relationship with this kind of woman, you need to have a strength within yourself that can handle her witty comments and self-assured demeanor.
Don’t worry fellas, winning the heart of an alpha female isn’t impossible. It may take a couple of go’s, but hey, if you grow a man-bun, you’ve accomplished half the battle.