Dear College Magazine,
I've noticed lately that girls don't want to stay the night at my place. The evening is usually going great but then they get back to my room and suddenly want to end the night. Is there something I'm doing wrong?
Dear Eager Guy,
A lot of people don’t really think about the state of their bedroom before they have sex. If you’re about to get it in, your room is probably the last thing on your mind. Most people only bother checking their breath and hair. But your room can also make or break the deal.
For me, I know that when a guy is coming over there are some things I have to do. I make my bed, obviously. I pick the clothing and shoes up off the ground a throw them in the closet. I light a candle for the smell and the atmosphere. Maybe a little cheesy, but it doesn’t hurt. Then I switch the light from my ceiling fan to my string lights, which make the room surprisingly sexy I think. But of course, this all depends on just how much prep time I have before show time.
“The condition of my room depends on how much time I have to prepare. If I have time — totally clean and cozy,” said Gabriella Montemayor, a student at the University of Texas at San Antonio. “If I have 20 minutes — hide my dirty clothes in my closet, make my bed and get the embarrassing stuff out of my bathroom. If I have 5 minutes — take out my bathroom trash.”
Yeah, don’t forget the bathroom either. If you’re screwing around with someone you know is going to snoop through your medicine cabinet, you might want to edit what is in there before he or she comes over. Pick your towels up off the floor. Ladies, hide your lady products. Then make sure the toilet seat is down and the shower curtain is closed. Bathrooms can’t be too clean. Bedrooms are another story.
“I have been to places that are so sketchy it looks like a crime scene, and some where it’s so clean I'm afraid to not use a coaster,” adds Montemayor.
Of course, an honest-to-god bedroom isn’t something every college student has in common. Even once you manage to escape the dorms, you’re stuck moving into a place with little to no furniture. And you would never think of it, but sometimes you are ready for sex way before your bedroom is.
“One time I went over to a guy’s house and he only had a recliner in his bedroom, and the floor was covered in trash and he had drug paraphernalia lying around,” says Cody Patterson, a grad student at the University of Massachusetts. “Needless to say I called the rendezvous off and got the heck out of there.”
Another good point. If you like to get high at home, make sure your partner is okay with that. Because if he or she isn’t, they may feel uncomfortable and you’ll be left wondering why they started acting so strange. So if you have one, hide your bong to be on the safe side.
You may be sleeping with this person, but he or she is still an overnight guest. They are spending the night with you, so do them the courtesy of at least making your room presentable. Personally, I’ve been in guys’ bedrooms where everything was spotless and then some rooms where the guy who could make some serious use out of a vacuum cleaner.
If you are in a supter tight time crunch and can only freshen up yourself or your room, go for yourself. But if you have the time to do both, take it. You wouldn’t want to spend the night with a hottie in a pigsty.
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