As girls, chances are weâve all been in a situation where we just arenât feeling it. Youâre with a guy, he thinks itâs going well, but you know thereâs no way in he** your panties are coming off. So at the end of the night, he goes home alone and youâre dubbed a tease.
Itâs at times like these when us girls may ask ourselves if weâre sending out the wrong message. Are we bad people if weâre causing blue balls?
After a good deal of deliberation, Iâve come to understand that there is a difference between being a tease and being selective. For those who donât believe me, let me break it down with a few scenarios:
Hanging Out Without Hooking Up: Guys and girls canât be friends. Youâve heard it before, but itâs true. Itâs only possible if the member of the opposite sex is the boyfriend/girlfriend of your best friend, if one is homosexual or if both parties are sadly unappealing. Otherwise there is always an attraction on at least one side and someone gets friend-zoned. If the guy is the one causing the longing, it is just assumed that heâs a âreally good guyâ who you canât help falling in love with. If a girl is causing the longing sheâs a tease. So is the solution for girls to just stop hanging out with guys? Should ladies just hang with other ladies and have pillow fights and braid each otherâs hair all day? Yeah right.
Wearing a Hot Outfit When Her Boo Isnât Around: A lot of guys think this is a major no no. Why on earth would a girl want to look good when her man isnât around? Because she wants her milkshake to bring all the boys to the yard? Uh, no. Not gonna lie, there are times when I go all out with the intention of snagging a man, but more so than not girls get dressed to impress other girls. For the guys reading this, donât lie, you know you donât always notice what girls wear. A short skirt might catch your attention but if we only wanted to impress you weâd go out in bikinis every night. Dressing her best does not make a girl a tease.
Accepting a Date and Declining a Relationship: This is the big one, the one that really gets guys. I canât tell you how many times Iâve heard, âI asked her out, PAID for her dinner and then she decided she didnât like me. B*tch.â Well, her bad. Obviously she should have decided you were âthe oneâ based on a random meeting at a frat house or after spending 50 minutes with you in class. Duh. Girls need a little time to get to know a guy before they decide if they like him. If after the date she wasnât stunned by your personality she has every right to say no without being a tease.
Â Donât get me wrong, Iâm not saying that girls donât tease guys. If sheâs flaunting her body in his face or suggestively touching with no intention of going any further, then yeah. I get it. But donât blame a girl for being a girl and donât call her a tease when she doesnât deserve the title.