Your head has officially hit the pillow, yet your friends are texting you profusely as they find out over Facebook. You have yet to deal with the world as it slowly unravels around you – all that you can think about is getting through the treacherous terrains of a lost love. Well, we’re here to help you in this difficult time in your life, with this Break-up First Aid Kit.
A letter to yourself that implies hope and support: Write a letter to yourself listing all your amazing characteristics and how you can overcome obstacles in your life. Avoid going back to the past; instead, move forward with advice to yourself by stating the mistakes you’ve made and how to defeat them in the future. Ashley Ross, a student at California State University, San Bernardino advised that one should think about the real reasons as to why and how the break up happened. “Sometimes the reason is deeper than we think,” she said.
A trash bag to “trash” your feelings: Gather up your ex girlfriend/boyfriend’s belongings or gifts he or she made for you – and trash them (if you’re not ready to let go yet – at least hide them – keep them out of sight). This will avoid evoking old memories or reminding yourself that you’ve been abandoned.
Tickets to see your favorite musical artist live: Anthony Sanchez, a student at Chaffey College said he’d prefer tickets to a concert, because listening to music and getting away is a way for him to escape his troubles. He advised to “get things off your mind by having an incredible time with your best friends.”
Movies to lift your spirits: Aaron Avil, a student at California State University, Long Beach said his ideal way to get over a break up is to watch comedic movies such as Superbad or RENO 911 to take his mind off of his grief. “It’s important to make yourself happy during this time,” he stated. “My favorites are anything with Michael Cera.” Other recommended movies: Charle’s Angels, TRON, Pineapple Express, or anything jam-packed with action, suspense, and comedy. Avoid romances.
A break-up playlist with “I’m moving on” songs: Sure, the typical Kelly Clarkson ballad may help. Go for songs that help you get over the relationship and move forward. Song suggestions: “Love is a Losing Game” by Amy Weinhouse, “Letting go” by Lupe Fiasco, and the cheesy, but everlasting “Cry me a river” by Justin Timberlake.
Either way, break ups are hard to get through. Allow yourself a bit of time to wallow in pity, but also remember that your friends and family can offer just as much support as lonely music and ice cream can.