By Kate

This is the second in a series of monthly interviews with women who are wildly happy with their sex lives.

Age: 23. Interested in: men and women. Relationship status: married (to a man).

Q: Why do you consider yourself a satisfied woman?

Nothing is missing from my sex life. I’m fulfilled emotionally, physically, and creatively. Past relationships were off balance: [they were] sexually explosive but emotional wrecks; or [we connected] in amazing ways during conversation but [had] completely different wants and needs in the bedroom.

Q: Any tricks or techniques you find particularly awesome?

Not having sex – or at least not the penis-in-vagina definition. I enjoy lots of other things too, and if I don’t listen to those desires, I don’t enjoy sex as much, in general. It also takes some pressure off - I hate feeling like making-out has to lead to intercourse every time.

With my choice of birth control, Fertility Awareness Method / FAM, we abstain from [intercourse] altogether every month around ovulation. It’s a courtship/honeymoon dichotomy every month. [We have space to] try new things.

Q: Any advice for less-than-satisfied women?

Don’t be ashamed to admit what really turns you on. Sometimes we pigeonhole ourselves to maintain an image, but sex will be better if you explore everything you want. Don’t assume that the nice guy will think you’re a freak if you want to tie him down.

Q: How about for their partners?

Take your time. Try not to make [bringing her to] climax your ultimate goal. Pay attention to her whole body, or over-stimulation could kill what would have been great sex.

Make each other feel sexy. Affection and compliments go a long way. So does the occasional ass-grab and passionate, spontaneous kiss. I want someone to want me all the time, not just before sex.

Paid Tip of the Week

By Lisa

Get more bang-for-your-buck at the grocery store! Lean in for the fine print and check out the unit cost. It breaks down the cost per unit of measure – i.e., ounce, quart, gallon – and helps you decide between the six-pack of Natty Light and the forty of Milwaukee’s Best.

 

Here it is guys, the one (more) day every year that has absolutely nothing to do with you. And how convenient that 90% of the movies coming out that weekend are chick flicks. That’s right. Happy freakin’ Valentine’s Day.  Click on the each link below for trailers.

 

NEW YORK, I LOVE YOU

Modeled after the French film Paris, Je t’aime, New York I Love You debuted in September 2008 at the Toronto Film Festival. It’s about encountering love within the five boroughs. The film is basically twelve short films, about five minutes each, by twelve different directors, jammed onto one ticket stub. We will call it the bang-for-your-buck film-of-the-weekend. (Starring Natalie Portman, Christina Ricci, Shia Leboeuf, Hayden Christensen, and more)

 

 

TWO LOVERS, starring Joaquin Phoenix and Gwenyth Paltrow

We always knew Joaquin Phoenix was an under-cover ladies man. In one of his last films (before retiring and growing the worst beard in the world), Phoenix is torn between the family friend everyone wishes he would get with and his hot new neighbor. Drama, drama, drama. For the guys: hot girls and a guy showing you how to play them. For the girls: romance and the drama of seeing him with another girl. Everyone wins.

 

 

CONFESSIONS OF A SHOPAHOLIC

This is just a personal favorite. All of my favorite men – Dior, Lagerfeld, Ralph Lauren, Louboutin – and the funniest and prettiest redhead to grace the screen, Isla Fisher, in a film based on the best-selling series. For all of the ladies who have ever made the mistake of taking your boyfriend to Target, this credit-card maxing, name-brand, hour-and-a-half shopping spree is probably not for them. 

 

 

 

 

FRIDAY THE 13TH

Single? Not in a traditional relationship? Can’t stand chick flicks? Valentine’s Day falls on a Saturday for the lucky in love. But how convenient that the day before is Friday the 13^th? Jason is back!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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