Laid:
By Kate
This is the first in a series of monthly interviews with women who are thrilled with their sex lives. First up is my lovely, sweet, always put-together friend whose bragging about simultaneous orgasms and female ejaculation was my inspiration.
Age: 23
Interested in: men
Relationship status: monogamous, long-term relationship
Q: Why do you consider yourself a satisfied woman?
A: I’m always in the mood to have sex with my partner. It’s very loving, and we have simultaneous, explosive orgasms every time. We have been dating for about 15 months, and it just keeps getting better!
Q: And you’re capable of female ejaculation…
It typically happens when I am on top because it comes from a lot of deep, g-spot stimulation (being on top makes me feel like I’m on the verge of orgasm). I feel waves coming over me, and it gets very warm, and then everything is wet. The first time, it soaked through to the mattress. My boyfriend loves it—he calls it my “waterfalling.”
Q: Any techniques you find particularly awesome?
A: Sometimes one of us blindfolds the other and covers their body with really light sensations—kissing, licking, or just breathing. You never know what your partner will touch next, and it leaves you aching for more.
A little bit of role-play or talking dirty can also be a big turn-on. He sometimes asks me to tell him what to do, which switches things up too.
He also likes to pull out during intercourse and go down on me, which is sexy because it is completely different and unexpected.
Q: Do you have advice for less-than-satisfied women?
Get to know your own body and how it responds. Masturbate and try different things on your own, so it’ll be easier to communicate—and orgasm—with your partner. But keep in mind that most of the lead-up [to a coital orgasm] does not feel like clitoral stimulation during masturbation. It is much deeper, and it sneaks up on you.
Have patience! Don’t pressure yourself to orgasm. But be proactive. Get into the mindset that you can have an orgasm during sex, and be willing to work at it.
Q: What about for people who have sex with women?
A: Build the woman’s confidence. Make sure she knows that you are attracted to her. My boyfriend loves going down on me, and he tells me that all the time.
At the same time, it is important that she doesn’t feel pressured and that the partner doesn’t act disappointed if she doesn’t orgasm—they must be supportive.
And remember, you can’t rely on the same techniques for every person you sleep with. Take the time to learn how to read each woman’s body.
Paid Tip of the Week
By Lisa
Avoiding ATM fees is easy! Plan ahead for cash withdrawals. If all else fails, try to hit up a supermarket or drugstore like CVS, Walgreens, or Whole Foods, for a cash-back purchase. Buying a pack of gum or a candy bar could save you a couple of bucks.